Sorry for the disappearance, folks.

“Real” life has force me away from the internet but I promise I’ll be back in a few short weeks!

I have a lot of pieces planned for the future and hope that you all will stick around for more self-love.

Something seems strangely exciting about sitting in a public computer lab continuing to write about penises. I mean, there’s always the very distinct possibility that someone would decide to turn around and stare at my screen and see the word PENIS jumping off the screen a cluster of pixels. I like it.

Anyway, last night I was starting to speak about the smaller end of the penis spectrum, and I plan on continuing that thought now.

Aside from the aforementioned benefits to a smaller penis for intercourse or the opportunity to excel at oral sex, there is also the very real benefit to making receiving oral sex vastly easier. Personally, I am a huge fan of oral sex (both giving and receiving) and there is nothing more exciting than being able to kiss the base of a man’s penis after shoving it down my throat. Graphic mental image, I know, but think about it — the possibilities for deep-throating and intense oral sex is unavoidable! You can work your tongue, lips and throat simultaneously around a man’s penis and not worry about bruising your jaw or even the back of your throat. Some things just have benefits that are more suited for smaller penis sizes and receiving oral sex is one of them. Don’t forget, ladies and gents, that there’s more than just the shaft of the penis itself! The glans and scrotum are both very sensitive on the average man, and if size is an issue for your partner (on both ends of the spectrum) paying attention to these two vital areas can prove to be equally exciting to other means of oral sex.

Finally, smaller penises have the potential for being able to reach certain areas of human anatomy that larger penises cannot. I mentioned the g-spot, a pleasure sensor of “oooooh, ahhhhh” response in many women (see below for an adequate cartoon interpretation) which lies relatively shallow inside the body. Many people seem to think the g-spot lies deep within the vagina and is impossible to find when truly it is located not far beyond the entrance to the vagina nestled against the top of the body in a soft pad of tissue that feels somewhat different than the rest of the vaginal tissue. It is g-spot orgasms that produce the ‘squirting’ that many a person knows and loves. While I have never been able to master this art of orgasmic-kind, I hear it is a body-arching, toe-tingling sensation. Hm.

Similar to the g-spot in a woman is the p-spot in a man. During anal sex for a male, the prostate is able to be hit in such a way that it delivers a similar pleasure sensation to the woman’s g-spot. The p-spot, when nestled against and stroked, etc. is essentially a massage of the prostate via the rectum. It is able to be stimulated via the rectum due to its proximity in the body to the rectal passage despite being a separate entity entirely. This stimulation of the male sex organ, essentially, is part of what makes anal sex so very pleasurable for men. Again, the p-spot is nestled in such a way that it is not particularly deep within the rectum and may be hard to stimulate with intercourse, but a smaller penis may be more apt for performing this act.

When in doubt for pleasuring a man or a woman’s ‘special spot,’ take it slow, experiment and get to know your partner’s body … and dexterous fingers are always a safe bet.

Now, I know my ex boyfriend is watching this blog and so my mentioning the other end of the spectrum may inadvertently stroke his ego, but it is also a source for shyness amongst many men. The larger side — the ‘holy sweet baby Jesus don’t come near me with that!’ — penis. Now, I can promise you that penises are not deadly weapons that have some sort of concealed blade in them that will skewer you from the inside out,  therefore that shining beacon of man-meat is essentially harmless. After all, did you know humans are one of few species of mammal that do not have a baculum, essentially a penile bone? Therefore, the penis itself isn’t going to go all porcupine and impale you with its spines. (See the movie Teeth if you want to see the opposite affect but with vaginas — not for the faint of heart) The human penis also is disproportionately large due to the lack of baculum, and the testes are disproportionately small. This is because human males do not need to compete as much in the animal kingdom for the ability to impregnate their mates and therefore do not need to produce as much sperm. If human male testes were proportionate to the average penis size, they would be significantly larger… and I’ve seen enough men get hit with an errant ball or miscellaneous object to know that if there was a larger target, there would be far more time spent crippled on the floor.

… more on larger penises later

Penises.

Okay, like boobs, we all know they come in all shapes, colors and sizes. I cannot tell you how many people have asked me if their penis is ‘normal’ or ‘okay.’ Yes, men, I promise you it is in fact just fine. It’s not about the size, it’s about how you make it work for you and your partner. It doesn’t matter what other people say about your penis, just like it doesn’t matter what people say about your body — so long as you are happy, that’s all that matters.

I’ll be honest, I’ve seen all sizes on the penis spectrum and regardless of size, it was the passion and confidence that my partner had that made the sex exciting. Sex is a beautiful and exciting thing (that’s why I’m doing this whole blog, anyway!) and all ‘variations’ of sex are equally invigorating for their own unique qualities.

If you have a smaller penis, there is nothing wrong with that. There are plenty of other ways to please a woman (or man) if you feel you are — ahem — inadequate in the length/girth-department. For instance, a friend of mine has what he affectionately refers to as the “Irish Curse.” He’s a bright red-head with lovely greenish eyes that claims he doesn’t have the proper amount of penis to adequately please his fiance with intercourse. Instead, he is known for being absolutely fantastic at oral sex. As in, women orgasm pretty darn quickly when he goes down on them. While I have not had the pleasure, so to speak, of experiencing these talents firsthand, I can say that he has found a way to accommodate for what he considers a disadvantage in the bedroom in many other ways.

From personal experience, a smaller penis (for intercourse purposes), benefits for particular positions in intercourse as opposed to others. Doggy style is essentially out of the question due to angles, curves and things that just don’t line up properly … but missionary and those exotic leg-tangling positions work just fine. Some benefits to having intercourse with a less-girthy/less-lengthy man are that your cervix isn’t hit (which is often extremely painful for women) and you have a greater chance of having g-spot stimulation. Yes, there are copious amounts of studies going around right now stating that the g-spot is a fictional thing, but until I see these theories and hypotheses turned into fact, I am going to continue mentioning the g-spot as an orgasmic heaven for woman-kind.

… more on this topic and larger penises later.

I’m back at university now. My personal life has taken a bit of a turn for the worst in the past several months, and I am sorry for my disappearance.

In my absence, I have done a lot of thinking regarding my own sexuality, sensuality and body image. I’ve had several long-term relationships, each of which have taught me something new about myself or about relationships as a whole. I have had several sexual partners that have each helped me redefine my sexuality, and together these experiences have helped make me, me.

While number may not matter — the number of relationships, the number of partners, etc., what matters is the amount of growth that you are able to find within yourself.

Grow. Live. Be sexy.